“I try always to face hurt squarely. Because I’ve learned that when I run from pain, I bypass transformation — like a caterpillar consistently jumping out of its cocoon, right before it was about to become a butterfly.”

– Glennon Doyle Melton

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LET ME BE YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM

I’m here to support and empower you through the challenges of blending your life with a man who has kids.

My program focuses on women who are in the stepmom role: either dating, in a committed relationship, or married to a man with children.

I don’t think anyone can understand the depths of this role until they’ve walked in our shoes. Instead of being invalidated or judged, I believe we should be honored and treated like the angels that we are, helping to heal broken families.

Which……

Is. Not. Easy.

Add a high-conflict co-parenting dynamic with the biological mother of the kids, and you have a recipe for emotional chaos.

There IS hope. I promise.

Surviving this will come down to the connection within your relationship. It’s about working together with your significant other to become a team.

Blending lives doesn’t allow for avoidance of the difficult stuff. Expectations, issues, and boundaries usually need to be addressed much earlier than in most relationships.

And, if you’re facing a dysfunctional co-parenting reality, it comes down to protecting your relationship and household from the impact of negative energy with impenetrable boundaries.

Let’s do this. I can help you.

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I understand because I’ve lived it

It’s taken me years of working with the best experts and therapists to develop the tools to rise above the high-conflict dynamic my partner and I and were drowning in.

And now that we understand it, we’ve been able to disentangle ourselves from it.

This journey is so much bigger than household struggles or one person who might be a source of significant toxicity.

This is about soul-work. A return to your personal power, self-love and a search for the true essence of your relationship and mothering in your own unique way.

Don’t lose one more precious day — it’s time to empower yourself and carve out a life and relationship you love — with intention.

 

“Maiko has been a rock for me during one of the hardest times of my life. Her support has been invaluable and she has really helped me to get back on track with advice that resonates on a deeper level. I’m so grateful for having her in my life.”

– Raquel V.

I CAN HELP BY PROVIDING YOU WITH:

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INSPIRATION

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KNOWLEDGE

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RESOURCES

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REAL LIFE TOOLS

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A SOLID GAME PLAN

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SUPPORT

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TAKE MY QUIZ TO SEE IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU. BE HONEST.

• Do you consider yourself a self-aware woman who is committed to her happiness and health?

• Are you willing to do some inner work to try and be your best self?

• Do you want to live an inspired life that includes a relationship you love?

• Do you dream of a deeply connected partnership founded in common values, honesty and lifelong love?

• Do you think this kind of relationship takes effort and doesn’t come easy?

• Do you make a conscious effort to surround yourself with high-vibe women because sisterhood and community mean the world to you?

• Do you take pride in loving and supporting other women?

• Maybe you’re out there dating and wondering if you should check the little box that says you’ll date a man with kids?

• Maybe you’re in a committed relationship with a quality guy who could be “the one”?

• Or maybe you’re already married and living life in a blended family?

• Do you believe that you’re with a man who is sincere, loving, and will always try his best to treat you the way you know you deserve to be treated?

Ahhhhhhhh bliss!

• You knew he had children when you met him but you still feel he’s worth the compromises?

• Do you believe you’re one of those special women who has the ability to love beyond a blood connection when raising children?

REALITY BEGINS TO SINK IN…

• Are you and your significant other starting to realize that blending lives isn’t easy?

• Is it getting to a point where values need to be discussed, household rules need to be defined, and difficult conversations need to be had?

• Do you feel like signing up to be his partner in parenting is an enormous commitment and is testing you and your relationship in ways you never imagined?

Now the real work of this journey begins:

• Do you feel a support system would be helpful to talk through topics like discipline, finances, new roles, household responsibilities, personal space, and maintaining your own identity?

• Are you pretty sure you can tackle the challenges in your blended family alongside your man?

• Do household struggles seem like a walk in the park compared to having to deal with the drama and chaos stemming from the high-conflict co-parenting reality?

• Do you think your partner may have created an unhealthy situation for himself by appeasing the bio-mother in order to avoid her wrath?

• Does it seem like his happy relationship with you threatens the dysfunctional dynamic she has been allowed to take advantage of for far too long?

• Does it seem like her fear that she’s losing control over your man’s life has kicked into high gear and she’s using the kids as weapons to create conflict?

• Do you wonder if you’re dealing with someone who has a personality disorder?

(You can get started with this video by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Narcissism vs Borderline Personality Disorder).

UGH. YOUR SUNSHINE TURNS TO DARKNESS.

• Have you have always done your best to get toxic people out of your life but you begin to feel overwhelmed by his past coming back to haunt your relationship?

• Are your once blissful feelings start to shift to negativity: fear, anxiety, sadness, confusion, hopelessness, anger …and even hatred?

• As your downward spiral begins do you feel unequipped to stop it?

• Do you feel like your life experiences and self-work haven’t given you the tools to handle THIS?!

“SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO” BECOMES A PART OF YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE.

• Have your health and self-care gone down the tubes?

• Do you feel alone and isolated because no one else seems to understand (because they haven’t lived it)?

• Do you blame your partner at times for your demise?

• Do you wonder what happened to the happy, strong, inspired woman who took pride in loving herself and others?

• Are you starting to feel like the old you is dying a slow, out-of-control death?

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YOU KNOW IN YOUR GUT THAT THIS IS NO WAY TO LIVE — AND YOU’RE RIGHT.

If you’ve answered YES! to the majority of the questions above, you’re not alone.

Many of us have felt this way too.

Let’s get you back on the right path. We should talk.