“I try always to face hurt squarely. Because I’ve learned that when I run from pain, I bypass transformation — like a caterpillar consistently jumping out of its cocoon, right before it was about to become a butterfly.”

– Glennon Doyle Melton

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LET ME BE YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM

I’m here to support and empower you through the challenges of blending your life with a man who has kids.

My program focuses on women who are in the stepmom role: either dating, in a committed relationship, or married to a man with children.

I don’t think anyone can understand the depths of this role in a blended family until they’ve walked in our shoes. Instead of being invalidated or judged, I believe we should be honored and treated like the angels that we are, helping to heal broken families.

Which……

Is. Not. Easy.

Add in a dysfunctional co-parenting dynamic with the biological mother of the kids, and you have a recipe for emotional chaos.

Some of the most unhealthy and dysfunctional co-parenting relationships have no conflict at all.

Why? Because one household is too afraid to protect themselves in fear of what the toxic co-parent might do next.

That’s no way to live.

And abusive behavior doesn’t just magically go away.

You can have a peaceful life AND a happy relationship with your guy. There is hope. I promise.

Surviving this will come down to the connection within your relationship. It’s about working together with your significant other to become a team.

Blending lives doesn’t allow for avoidance of the difficult stuff. Expectations, issues, and boundaries usually need to be addressed much earlier than in most relationships.

And, if you’re facing an unhealthy co-parenting reality, it comes down to protecting your relationship and household from the impact of negative energy with impenetrable boundaries.

Let’s do this. I can help you.

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I understand because I’ve lived it

It’s taken me years of working with the best experts and therapists to develop the tools to find freedom from the high-conflict dynamic my partner and I and were drowning within our co-parenting situation.

And now that we understand the root cause of the issues, we’ve been able to disentangle ourselves from the conflict.

This journey is so much bigger than household struggles or one person who might be a source of significant toxicity.

This is about soul-work. A return to your personal power, self-love and a search for the true essence of your relationship and mothering in your own unique way.

Don’t lose one more precious day — it’s time to empower yourself and carve out a life and relationship you love — with intention.

WHAT STEPMOMS ARE SAYING

“Maiko helped my family in a way that no one else have been able to. She helped make a specialized plan with us and helped us through each step. For anyone who needs help with their commitment to better their relationships, I highly recommend working with Maiko.”

-Kylie

I CAN HELP BY PROVIDING YOU WITH:

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INSPIRATION

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KNOWLEDGE

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RESOURCES

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REAL LIFE TOOLS

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A SOLID GAME PLAN

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SUPPORT

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TAKE MY QUIZ TO SEE IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU. BE HONEST.

• Do you consider yourself a self-aware woman who is committed to her happiness and health?

• Are you willing to do some inner work to try and be your best self?

• Do you want to live an inspired life that includes a relationship you love?

• Do you dream of a deeply connected partnership founded in common values, honesty and lifelong love?

• Do you think this kind of relationship takes effort and doesn’t come easy?

• Do you make a conscious effort to surround yourself with high-vibe women because sisterhood and community mean the world to you?

• Do you take pride in loving and supporting other women?

• Maybe you’re out there dating and wondering if you should check the little box that says you’ll date a man with kids?

• Maybe you’re in a committed relationship with a quality guy who could be “the one”?

• Or maybe you’re already married and living life in a blended family?

• Do you believe that you’re with a man who is sincere, loving, and will always try his best to treat you the way you know you deserve to be treated?

Ahhhhhhhh bliss!

• You knew he had children when you met him but you still feel he’s worth the compromises?

• Do you believe you’re one of those special women who has the ability to love beyond a blood connection when raising children?

BUT THEN REALITY BEGINS TO SET IN…

• Are you and your significant other starting to realize that life in a blended family isn’t easy?

• Is it getting to a point where values need to be discussed, household rules need to be defined, and difficult conversations need to be had?

• Do you feel like signing up to be his partner in parenting is an enormous commitment and is testing you and your relationship in ways you never imagined?

Now the real work of this journey begins:

• Do you feel a support system would be helpful to talk through topics like finances, roles, household responsibilities, personal space, and maintaining your own identity?

• Are you pretty sure you can tackle the challenges in your blended family alongside your man?

• Do household struggles seem like a walk in the park compared to having to deal with the drama and chaos stemming from the high-conflict co-parenting reality?

• Do you think your partner may have created an unhealthy pattern for himself by appeasing the bio-mother in order to avoid her wrath?

• Does it seem like his happy relationship with you threatens the dysfunctional dynamic she has been allowed to take advantage of for far too long?

• Does it seem like her fear that she’s losing control over your man’s life has kicked into high gear and she’s using the kids as weapons to create conflict?

• Do you wonder if you’re dealing with someone who has a personality disorder?

(You can get started with this video by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Narcissism vs Borderline Personality Disorder).

UGH. YOUR SUNSHINE TURNS TO DARKNESS.

• Have you have always done your best to get toxic people out of your life but you begin to feel overwhelmed by his past coming back to haunt your relationship?

• Are your once blissful feelings start to shift to negativity: fear, anxiety, powerlessness, sadness, confusion, hopelessness, anger — and even hatred?

• As your downward spiral begins do you feel unequipped to stop it?

• Do you feel like your life experiences and self-work haven’t given you the tools to handle THIS?!?!

“SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO” BECOMES A PART OF YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE.

• Have your health and self-care gone down the tubes?

• Do you feel alone and isolated because no one else seems to understand (because they haven’t lived it)?

• Do you blame your partner at times for your demise?

• Do you wonder what happened to the happy, strong, inspired woman who took pride in loving herself and others?

• Are you starting to feel like the old you is dying a slow, out-of-control death?

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YOU KNOW IN YOUR GUT THAT THIS IS NO WAY TO LIVE — AND YOU’RE RIGHT.

If you’ve answered YES! to the majority of the questions above, you’re not alone.

Many of us have felt this way too.

Let’s get you back on the right path. We should talk.

FOR ANYONE FACING A DYSFUNCTIONAL CO-PARENTING DYNAMIC

It’s OK if you’re struggling right now because the other biological parent seems hostile.

No one taught you how to handle this.

The thing is, society pressures us to believe that we should all be able to co-parent cooperatively “for the sake of the kids.”

BUT, if you’re dealing with someone who is high-conflict and/or personality disordered, you’re living in an abnormal situation and one size does not fit all.

The regular rules of co-parenting can’t be applied to high-conflict cases. 

That’s the trap. And that’s why surface level advice isn’t working, as “reasonable” as it might seem.

It might be time to start seeing the situation for what it is, and do the work to move forward to a place where their drama and attempts at conflict don’t impact your life any longer.

There IS a way to get there — I promise.

My coaching program, Freedom from Chaos, is an intervention into your present reality that will teach you an unconventional parenting stance that actually addresses your unhealthy situation — not some surface-level ideal of what co-parenting should look like.

It’s a new approach that will empower you to shield yourself — and the kids — from more chaos.

You’re going to have to dig deep — but it’s worth it. Trust me.

Life is too short to continuously be impacted by someone else’s emotional chaos.

THIS is what it looks like to take your power back!

Learn more here.


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