Step Out of Warrior Mode When You Need a Break

Here’s a quick snippet of feedback for one of my stepmom clients who realized she needs to re-prioritize herself after warrior-ing up to help her husband co-parent with a high-conflict ex:

Don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re creating so much powerful momentum as you move toward changing an extremely UNHEALTHY dynamic!

Warrior Mode requires a lot of energy and focus. It would be hard to balance everything you’ve accomplished so far AND prioritize your inner work at the same time. That would be a lot for anyone.

Balance is ideal, but not always possible when putting a stop to an abusive situation.

If we acknowledge that transformation comes in stages, then we’re in a better place to patiently move between our different energies as we create the change we want.

I believe women who are brave enough to do the work necessary to put an end to unhealthy patterns and cycles — not only for ourselves but for the ones we love — are f’n angels. And we’re powerful!!!

It’s not easy to stop the bleeding that’s been passed on from generation to the next.

But that’s what you’re doing.

Many people choose to live life from their emotional comfort zone, you’re different. You have the courage to step into the arena and face your fears. Even if it requires reopening old wounds for the sake of protecting your family — that’s HUGE!

Since you and your partner are still going to have to co-parent with a high-conflict ex, I think now is the perfect time to shift into Rest & Recharge Mode. For a few weeks, intentionally step out of Warrior mode and engage your strong, centered Queen energy!

All the while, you can prepare for the next phase of protecting yourself. In this case, from the wounded, dark energy that’s been using the kids to target you and your hubby for far too long.

And just know, I will gladly pick up my sword and fight with you.

“The credit belongs to the one who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming. A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.”

-Brene Brown